04 May

Offended?

Have you been offended?

What should you do?

Lash out?

Stuff it?

Pout?

Ignore it?

Run away?

Tell others about it?

Here is a novel idea.

If someone offends you, go to them privately and make them aware of the offense.

You might be surprised to learn they had no idea that they had offended you. Or perhaps you were too sensitive or misunderstood their intentions.

If the person listens and agrees, you have had great success.

But if you are unsuccessful, consider taking one or two others with you, who love you both, in a second attempt to try to work things out.

Hearing others perspective on the matter might help resolve the issue.

Still not successful? Then you might have to agree to disagree or involve a greater body of authority to resolve the conflict. It might even mean making a necessary ending.

Maintaining valuable relationships are worth the effort. But they do require healthy communication, plenty of compromise and a desire to understand another person’s perspective.

We don’t have to agree on everything. Discussions don’t have to turn into arguments. And even the best of friends have differences of opinion.

If being right or having your way comes at the cost of a longterm friendship or important relationship, it might be time to determine what really matters most in life. It might be time to overlook an offense and lean into, not away from, those you claim to love.

REFERENCE: Matthew 18:15-17 and I Peter 4:8

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