26 Jul

The 3D Operating System

There is an old saying, “If you want something done right, do it yourself.”

There is something to be said about this advice. It assumes you know how to not only accomplish the task appropriately but it also assumes you are the right person for the job.

You might know the right way but are you the right person?

A good filter for determining the answer is to ask yourself another question, “Is this the highest and best use of my time?

Like any start-up organization, the Apostles found themselves trying to manage the challenges of a thriving movement. Good things were happening and fast. In the process, some of the finer details were starting to slip through the cracks.

Rumblings and grumblings were starting to appear as growing pains were sign of growth. Truth is, progress comes with a few stretch marks! The team was being stretched and it was starting to show in their countenance and cooperation toward a common goal.

What leadership lessons can we learn from Acts 6:1-5?

I call it the 3D Operating System

1. Duplicate yourself

2. Delegate your duties

3. Do your job

The Apostles were at their personal limits. There is only so much time in the day. You can only do so much. Solution? Clone a “mini-me”! Duplicate yourself! You can’t do it all! You need help!

Look for leaders who are well respected for their core competencies, are led by strong values and are known for making wise decisions.

What next?

Delegate your duties. Everyone has different gifts and abilities. What are the things you are great at and are most suited for your strengths? Are there things you care doing that can be accomplished by other highly competent people? Who, if we are honest, might actually do an even better job?  Stay in your lane! Operate from your sweet spot and determine what constitutes the highest and best use of your time and talents. Quite simply, delegate!

Finally, do your job. Stay focused on what you have to contribute to the team and trust others to do the same as you divide and conquer!

God has given you certain gifts, talents and abilities that are unique to you. The same is true for others on your team. The key is in having everyone operate from their strengths. Highly functioning teams not only work well together, they find great satisfaction in knowing they contributed to the greater good. There is something special about knowing we did more together than we ever could alone.

I love the last line from Acts 6:5, “Everyone liked this idea.”

When we duplicate ourselves, delegate duties and do our job according to the highest possible good, great things start to happen and everybody likes the idea!

Try the 3D Operating System and you might just be surprised what gets done without you!

28 May

Step into the fray of this present darkness

“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.” (Ephesians 6:12)

Satan and his demons are very powerful and active. We live in a multidimensional world.

There is more to this life than what is seen. The life we live is not a game. We aren’t playing around. This is serious warfare. We must live with a sense of urgency and gravity. 

We are at war. Everyday is a battle. The enemy is real and seeks to devour, defeat and destroy us.

We are on the front lines of the battlefield. The enemy is a schemer and isn’t messing around. We are to gear up and put on “the whole armor of God, that we may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.” (Ephesians 6:11)

“Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings. And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. To him be the power for ever and ever. Amen. (1 Peter 5:8)

Fight the good fight, finish the race. Keep the faith. (2 Timothy 4:7)

Notice it says fight not play, finish not quit.

It says keep the faith. Do not lose heart.

We are not called to sit on the sideline. 

We are not commissioned to watch passively as the wolf runs wild among the sheep. 

No, we are called to fight. To finish and to win. 

We are called to be warriors. Soldiers of God. Knights in the Lord’s army. 

We are called to be people of valor, dignity and honor. 

Our commander is anything but apathetic. He is a force to be reckoned with. 

May those who oppose him feel the weight of his presence and may we be found among those who take a stand with our leader as the enemy stands down!

We are called to fight not flight, dignity not debauchery, purity not perversion, virtue not vulgarity, decency not deceit, accountability not atrocity, peace not pain, family not freaks, facts not fantasy, compassion not collusion, deliberation not deception, liberation not loathfulness, hope not hate, faith not fear, and love not lies.

The stakes are to high and the battle to fierce to lay low, hide out and wait for the danger to pass us by. We are called to lock arms, step into the fray and lead the way to a better way of life. 

 “Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.” (James 1:12)

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep. The hired hand is not the shepherd and does not own the sheep. So when he sees the wolf coming, he abandons the sheep and runs away. Then the wolf attacks the flock and scatters it. The man runs away because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the sheep. (John 10:10-13)

In a fight between a sheep and a wolf the sheep doesn’t stand a chance, unless there is a shepherd. We must trust the Good Shepherd is tending his sheep and remember, he is on our side!

“Stay alert. This is hazardous work I’m assigning you. You’re going to be like sheep running through a wolf pack, so don’t call attention to yourselves. Be as cunning as a snake, inoffensive as a dove.”

“Don’t be naive. Some people will impugn your motives, others will smear your reputation—just because you believe in me. Don’t be upset when they haul you before the civil authorities. Without knowing it, they’ve done you—and me—a favor, given you a platform for preaching the kingdom news! And don’t worry about what you’ll say or how you’ll say it. The right words will be there; the Spirit of your Father will supply the words.”

“When people realize it is the living God you are presenting and not some idol that makes them feel good, they are going to turn on you, even people in your own family. There is a great irony here: proclaiming so much love, experiencing so much hate! But don’t quit. Don’t cave in. It is all well worth it in the end. It is not success you are after in such times but survival. Be survivors! Before you’ve run out of options, the Son of Man will have arrived.”‭‭ (Matthew‬ ‭10:16-23‬ ‭MSG)

“Don’t be intimidated. Eventually everything is going to be out in the open, and everyone will know how things really are. So don’t hesitate to go public now.”

“Don’t be bluffed into silence by the threats of bullies. There’s nothing they can do to your soul, your core being. Save your fear for God, who holds your entire life—body and soul—in his hands.” ‭‭(Matthew‬ ‭10:26-28‬ ‭MSG‬‬)

15 May

Silent sunshine

Wow! I am blown away by Ellicott’s Commentary on Luke 7:18-22

Are you the Messiah?

Had mists of doubt crept over John’s clear conviction that Jesus was the Messiah? 

John wanted the lightning; Christ told him that the silent sunshine exerts energy, to which the fiercest flash is weak. 

We need the lesson, for we are tempted to exalt force above love, if not in our thoughts of God, yet in looking at and dealing with men; and we are slow to apprehend the teaching of Bethlehem and Calvary, that the divinest thing in God, and the strongest power among men, is gentle, pitying, self-sacrificing love. 

The deepest meaning of the answer is that love, pity, healing, are the true signs, not judicial, retributive, destructive energy. 

08 May

Sons of Thunder!!!

What a wonderful observation and transformation we see in the lives of James and John, the Sons of Thunder! 

Oh how I can relate!

The Website, GotQuestions.org does a great job giving insight behind the nickname! Here is their post on subject.

Why did Jesus refer to James and John as the sons of thunder?

In Mark 3, Jesus calls twelve men to be His apostles. Among them are “James son of Zebedee and his brother John (to them he gave the name Boanerges, which means Sons of Thunder)” (Mark 3:17). This is the only place in Scripture that mentions the designation of the sons of Zebedee as the Sons of Thunder, and there is no stated explanation as to why Jesus named them this.

However, Jesus has a purpose for everything He does, so He must have had a good reason for dubbing James and John as “Sons of Thunder.” “Jesus . . . knew all men. He did not need man’s testimony about man, for he knew what was in a man” (John 2:24-25). In other words, Jesus knew the brothers’ nature when He first met them, and He chose “Boanerges” as a fitting nickname.

In one vivid incident, we see that James and John possessed some truly thunder-like qualities. Jesus and His disciples were traveling through Samaria on their way to Jerusalem when they ran into trouble. Jesus attempted to find accommodations for the night in one place but was met with opposition from the villagers, simply because His destination was Jerusalem—a result of Jew-Samaritan prejudice. “When the disciples James and John saw this, they asked, ‘Lord, do you want us to call fire down from heaven to destroy them?’” (Luke 9:54). Jesus rebuked the brothers, and they all went to another village. James and John’s response to the Samaritans reveals a fervency, impetuosity, and anger that could properly be called “thunderous”—and we can be sure that there were other times when James and John lived up to their nickname.

James and John were two of Jesus’ closest friends, being two of the “inner three” disciples (see Matthew 17:1). As the church age began, James was the first apostle to be killed (Acts 12:2), while John was the last to die, although of old age. John’s epistles, written late in his life, hint that he still possessed a fervency of spirit, especially in his denunciations of apostates and deceivers (1 John 2:22; 2 John 7; 3 John 10). 

However, it is a fervency tempered by love. In fact, in 1 John the word “love” and its relatives occur over 40 times. When he first met Jesus, John was one of the “Boanerges.” But after walking with Jesus for a lifetime, the “Son of Thunder” earned a new nickname: the “Apostle of Love.”

Source: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.gotquestions.org/amp/sons-of-thunder.html

07 May

Given to care 

Jesus didn’t just see, he noticed as his critics watched and scrutinized!

Jesus was aware and sensitive to the needs of others. He was given to care while others were prone to criticize and critique.

Jesus empathized with the weakness while critics emphasized how others had fallen short.

Jesus consoled. The critics condemned.

He sought to be helpful as others were hurtful.

He came to save lives while pundits sought only to destroy it.

His approach was far more than an attitude, persecutive or modus operandi. His way was a way of life. It was an outflow of who he was.

He was in the game. He was not a spectator. He joined us in our pain, suffering and hurt. He didn’t just see, he noticed and took action with no regard to rules, regulations or traditions.  

Sometimes in life you just do the right thing because it’s the right thing not because it is called for in a rule book. 

We get a glimpse of a real life situation in the gospel of Mark, chapter three. It is clear in the passage that Jesus was focused on the needs, hurts and pains of others. He truly felt their suffering and as a result was not applauded but rather criticized for it!

It is easy to overlook his passion for people because of who he was. We look past the naysayers and just see it as just another day in the life of Jesus. 

We overlook his actions until we find ourselves in the story. Like the man with the deformed hand that Jesus healed, we find ourselves impacted by a man that didn’t just see, but noticed our pain and suffering and reached out to us and did something about it despite the pressure to play life by the book and the letter of the law.

Jesus finds us right where we are, reaches out to us, asks us to take a step in his direction in order that we might be transformed by the touch of his hand.

Here is the good news. Jesus is still meeting us where we are today. No matter what struggles we face, mental, emotional or physical, he notices, he cares and he is prepared to walk with us despite what others might say or think. He doesn’t just see. He takes notice time and time again!

As life brings others our way, will we just see or will we also notice? Will we empathize or emphasize their weaknesses? Will we seek to console or condemn? Help or hurt? Breathe life into the situation or drive the final nail in the coffin?

The choice is ours. When we recognize the need for compassion, mercy and grace in our own lives it tends to manifest itself as love in the lives of others. 

Let’s choose love today and grant life in the lives of others as we don’t just see but notice the potential that waits to be awakened within them.

05 May

Pinocchio’s Dilemma

Are you a puppet leader? If you are, deep inside, despite the persona you present, you know you have the title, you have the position but like Pinocchio, your every move is controlled from behind the scenes. You are not your own man. You are a sycophant. A yes-man.

The master manipulators pull your strings and play you like a rag doll. The minute you have an original idea or fail to comply, they gently pull your strings with threats and innuendos. 

Fail to follow and before you know it, they cut you off, take you out and drop you to the floor like a useless head of lettuce. This is especially so if the limelight seems to have gone from the so-called creator and onto the beloved carved creation who succeeds.  

Things go well so long as you and the other puppets in the production play along, dance to the music and keep their “noses” clean. 

Question not, look the other way, limit your critique, ignore your gut, stuff your character, simply comply and all will go well. 

It’s sad really. Like Pinocchio, puppet leaders deeply desire to be real and to be genuine. They yearn for freedom from the the powers that be, those passive aggressive control freaks that subtly circumvent, twist the strings and maneuver like a snake in the grass. They go unnoticed until Pinocchio eventually has enough. He can no longer ignore his conscious. He breaks free and becomes a real leader. A real man, not a yes man but a man led by his heart and the real Creator.

Retired major league baseball player, Adam LaRoche, captured the essence of Pinocchio’s dilemma when he said, “In life, we’re all faced with difficult decisions and will have a choice to make. Do we act based on the consequences, or do we act on what we know and believe in our hearts to be right?” 

Every puppet leader will ultimately come face to face with who he really wants to be. A puppet on a sting, with a title and a position, or a real man, a real leader, beholding to God alone and led by strong convictions and a clear conscience.

 

30 Apr

Keep walking!

Learning to walk in the shoes of another is to experience a journey from emphatic to instinctive empathy.

When under consistent emotional distress and pain we become conditioned to build an emotional barrier between ourselves and others. 

We become unable to empathize or take on the pain of others due to the level of discontent we ourselves have experienced. As a result, we fail to express empathy for others for sake of our own survival and in an effort to preserve our mental and physical wellbeing. 

Quite simply, our pain has caused us to reach our empathy threshold. We are at our limit and are unable to take on the added emotional baggage of others strictly as a matter of preserving our personal sanity. 

Living under prolonged conditions of abuse and dysfunction hardwires our brains for self preservation and leaves little room for empathy for others due to the level of personal stress we have endured.

It is not that we don’t care, want to be unkind or are insensitive. We simply have nothing else to give. Our emotional tank has been tapped. It is bone dry and is in need of replenishment in its own right. We have been hurt and now our inability to recover has left us unable to empathize with others. The hurt multiples not so much as a result of what we do but as a result of what we don’t do as needs for empathy go unmet in the lives of others.

Only when we are removed from the negative environment are we in a position to consider utilizing our empathy reserves for others. Even then the thought of empathizing with others may come with reluctance for fear of needing to retain empathy for our own needs. 

Once we have become stronger emotionally and no longer perceive the need for empathy ourselves are we then in a position to extend and grant empathy to others. 

Until such time, our use of empathy will be emphatic and much less instinctive. With improved circumstances, greater self awareness and regular intentionality, our empathy for others will grow as we project the empathy we have had for ourselves into the lives of others. 

Because we are in a better state of mind, the world will be a better place as we learn to express greater empathy for one another. 

Walking in the shoes of another becomes easier as we have walked in shoes of our own.  

Nonetheless, we must keep walking! We’re in this together!

30 Apr

Definded by success?

What does success look like for you?

Is winning required in order to be successful or is finishing all that is required? Then again, is success more about the experience than the finish line?

Do you have to be the best or is doing your best success for you?

How do you define success? A life with no regrets? Getting through another day? Staying out of trouble? Or the number of zeros in your paycheck.

How success is defined can be strictly personal or completely universal.

What role does timing, luck, circumstances and providence play in your success? How much of your success depends on effort and preparedness?

Does success require intentionality or does success show up by chance?

How will you know if you have succeeded? Can success be guaranteed?

What defines your life? Is your life defined by success? How is it defined at all?

Unless you define success how will you know if you have succeeded?